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Post Divorce Counseling In Blaine MN
Are you struggling to hang onto yourself in the process of letting go?
Is this new transition and all the decisions feeling overwhelming to you?
Do you struggle with:
-Feeling like you have to compromise to prove you aren’t the bad guy?
-Setting boundaries to protect your well-being?
-Realizing you don’t know who you are outside of being a couple?
-Living in a constant state of restlessness, not knowing what to do with yourself?
-Feeling relieved that the fight is over one moment, and crushing loss the next?
What if things never get better?
When you’re going through a divorce, it isn’t just your marriage that feels over. It’s your entire self, your routines, and your hopes for the future. Eventually, the nights you lay awake, the legal battles, and your new parenting schedule start to take a permanent toll. If you don’t find a way to get through all of this, you risk:
- Emotional Numbing: The grief, anger, and uncertainty can become so overwhelming that doing simple things feels impossible.
- Losing yourself along the way: When every aspect of the divorce takes up your time, it’s easy to forget who you are outside of it, and harder to imagine being on the other side of it.
- Hurting the people you love: Unprocessed pain has a way of affecting others, your kids, your friends, your work, and it can catch up to you.
- Long-term bitterness: Without the right support, your hurting heart can harden into resentment that follows you into every new chapter of your life.
Honestly speaking, the pain of divorce doesn’t always just work itself out on its own, and there’s no reason you should have to figure it out by yourself.
Together We Will
Explore Life After Marriage
Quiet Self-Doubt
Build New Boundaries
Reclaim Your Independence
Find Your New Routine
Make Sense Of The Loss
The good news is…
just because the papers have been signed, it doesn’t mean that your life is over.
Your healing and your identity are no longer tied to who you were during your marriage, or who you were during your divorce. You can start finding your own path, and rediscovering who you are from this moment forward.
What is Post Divorce Counseling?
Post divorce counseling is designed to support you through the emotional and psychological stress of ending a marriage. It is a process of rebuilding your life after your partnership has ended, while managing the realities of co-parenting, financial changes, and the loss of a future you once imagined. It provides the tools to explore your grief, understand your own patterns, and make confident decisions from certainty rather than pain. Ultimately, it is about more than “moving on.” It is about ensuring that your identity is intact and your vision is clear as you step into this next chapter.
The Focus of Our Work
Managing the Emotional Impact: Life after divorce brings on many emotions, and we don’t always have control over when they show up. Together we’ll explore how the end of your marriage is affecting your mental health, your daily life, and your sense of stability, and find ways to help you feel more certain.
Building Your Strength: Beneath the stress and heartache, the person you were before is still there. We’ll work together to reconnect you with that person, the one who felt capable, confident, and maybe even fun.
Reforming Your Identity: Marriage changes us in ways we don’t always see. We’ll take an honest look at who you became during your marriage, who you are now, and who you want to be in the future.
Setting Boundaries: Moving forward often means learning a new way to communicate, especially if co-parenting is in the mix. We’ll work on building the skills you need to set and keep firm boundaries that protect your own peace, your children, and your future.
Finding Independence: This time in your life is yours. We’ll focus on helping you discover your own needs, goals, and values so that you know what you want when it’s time to meet someone new.
The First Session
Understanding Your Story
We’ll talk about what brought you here, the current stage of your divorce or separation, and the way it is impacting your mental health. During our sessions, you have the room to give your perceptions and process the loss without any judgment, helping us get a clear image of where you are right now and where you want to go.
Creating Your Goals
You Call The Shots
In therapy, you decide what will make you feel successful. Whether you want to focus on finding your voice, managing anxiety, setting boundaries, or deciding your future, you are the creator of your own goals. I’m here to help you break them down into doable steps.
The Treatment Plan
Your Guide To Change
After you set your goals, we will create a treatment plan together. Life can be unpredictable, so adjusting goals is a normal thing in therapy. At any point during our time together, you have the ability to add or change your goals at any time.
Active Treatment
Exploration & Action
In our ongoing sessions, the work becomes a mix of exploration and action. I am there to:
Provide a safe place for you to lay it all out there.
Support you when the work becomes overwhelming.
Give you the specific tools you need to navigate your unique situation.
Help you stay on the path that will help you achieve your goals.
Hi, I’m April
I know what it’s like to be at a breaking point in a relationship.
It’s hard to see your life any other way, than part of a pair. The panic, and uncertainty of having to go through life without a partner, when for the longest time, part of your identity was wrapped up in this person.
My approach to therapy is grounded in the belief that Nobody plans on these things happening, and there’s nothing to be ashamed of when it does. I’m here to help you process the end, figure out who you are now, and where you want this new road to take you.
We work together to ensure that no matter what, your mental health is better than it was during the end of your relationship.
April Williamson, MA, LMFT
The Tools We’ll Use
To help you move from surviving the split to being yourself, we will use specific strategies tailored to what you need. Some of these include:
Setting New Boundaries Learning where your responsibilities end and your ex-partner’s begin, so you can stop carrying the weight of their choices or reactions.
Learning to Disengage Learning how to take a step back during high-conflict moments or stressful legal exchanges, allowing you to respond with clarity rather than reacting from a place of hurt.
Identifying Your Values Reconnecting with the things that matter to you most as an individual, helping you make decisions about your future with more certainty and peace.
Communication Scripts Practicing how to express your needs and set firm limits clearly, especially when navigating co-parenting or the logistics of the divorce.
Grounding Techniques Physical techniques to calm your nervous system when the stress of the transition feels overwhelming, so you can stay grounded instead of spinning into panic.
Self-Compassion Tools Ways to quiet the inner critic and the “what-ifs” that tell you that you’ve failed because your life looks different than you planned.
Testimonials
Ready for a Change? Let’s Talk.
I know it can be hard to take the first step. Let’s start with a simple conversation to see if we’re a good fit.
Worried about how your kids are taking this?
Divorce is hard on the whole family. I offer therapy for major life changes for ages 8 and up to help them process the big changes that are happening, and regain their sense of stability.
FAQ
Do you take insurance?
Yes, I am currently in-network with:
- Medica
- United Healthcare/UBH/UMR
- Cigna/Evernorth
- Optum EAP
- Medical Assistance/ Minnesotacare
For those who have out-of-network benefits, I am able to create a superbill for you to submit to your insurance.
Do you offer in-person or virtual appointments?
I offer both! For those who are interested in meeting face-to-face, we meet at my office in Blaine. For those who prefer virtual appointments, we meet through a HIPAA compliant video platform.
What is your private pay session fee?
For individual therapy my private pay fee is $160 per session (ranging 45-50 minutes)
For couples therapy my private pay fee is $175 per session (ranging 45-50 minutes)
Do you offer a free consultation?
Yes, I offer a free 15 minute consultation for those looking for more information or who would just like to meet me before our first session. I offer phone and virtual consultations, depending on your preference.
