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Post Divorce Counseling In Blaine MN
Are you struggling to hang onto yourself in the process of letting go?
Is this new transition and all the decisions feeling overwhelming to you?
Do you struggle with:
-Feeling like you have to compromise to prove you aren’t the bad guy?
-Fearing that one wrong decision is going to ruin the rest of your life?
-Setting boundaries to protect your well-being?
-Realizing you don’t know who you are outside of being a couple?
-Living in a constant state of restlessness, not knowing what to do with yourself?
-Feeling relieved that the fight is over one moment, and crushing loss the next?
What if I can’t move on?
When you’re contemplating divorce, it’s not just your past that holds you back, it’s your future that suffers, too. Over time, the constant “what ifs” and the fear of the unknown start taking a permanent toll. If you don’t find a way to get through this, you risk:
Living on Standby: The energy it takes to hold on to the past eventually leaves you with no momentum for your career, your family, or your own growth.
Identity Erasure: You may find yourself stuck in the role of the “ex-spouse” or the “victim,” losing sight of the person you were meant to become.
Persistent Hyper-Vigilance: The survival mode of the divorce process can become your default state, making it feel impossible to ever truly relax or feel safe again.
Hardened Bitterness: The pain of the split can settle into a permanent resentment that affects every new relationship and experience you have from here on out.
Honestly speaking, this feeling of being stuck doesn’t usually resolve on its own. It just becomes your new, limited reality.
Together We Will
Navigate the Transition
Quiet Self-Doubt
Build New Boundaries
Reclaim Your Independence
Find Your New Routine
Make Sense Of The Loss
The good news is…
The papers don’t have to be signed to start feeling like yourself again.
You don’t have to wait for the legal process to end or the dust to settle to begin reclaiming your life. Your healing and your identity are no longer tied to the timeline of the divorce. You can start finding your footing, finding your own path, and rediscovering who you are right now.
What is Post Divorce Counseling?
Post Divorce Counseling is a specialized space designed to support you through the emotional and psychological upheaval of ending a marriage. Unlike traditional marriage counseling, the focus here is not on fixing the relationship, but on helping you remain whole as it dissolves.
It is a process of untangling your life from a partnership while managing the stress of legal changes, family transitions, and the loss of the future you once imagined. It provides the tools to process your grief, manage your reactivity, and make high-stakes decisions from a place of clarity rather than fear.
Ultimately, it is about more than just “getting through” the divorce—it is about ensuring that you emerge from the process with your identity intact and a clear vision for the life you are building on the other side.
The Focus of Our Work
Managing the Emotional Impact We address the anxiety, grief, and exhaustion that come with a divorce. We explore how the current conflict or legal process is affecting your mental health and find ways to stabilize your well-being.
Restoring Your Strength We identify the version of yourself that felt capable and confident before the crisis. We work on strategies to help you reconnect with that internal strength so you can navigate this process with resilience.
Identity Re-Shaping We look at how your identity was changed by your marriage and the roles you played. We determine who you are now that those roles aren’t needed and help you decide who you want to be moving forward.
Setting Boundaries We develop the communication skills needed to interact with your ex-partner, focusing on how to set and enforce firm boundaries that protect you, your children and your future.
Cultivating Independence We focus on your life outside of the relationship, helping you identify and prioritize your needs, goals, and values from now on.
The First Session
Understanding Your Story
We’ll talk about what brought you here, the current stage of your divorce or separation, and the way it is impacting your mental health. During our sessions, you have the room to give your perceptions and process the loss without any judgment, helping us get a clear image of where you are right now and where you want to go.
Creating Your Goals
You Call The Shots
In therapy, you decide what will make you feel successful. Whether you want to focus on finding your voice, managing anxiety, setting boundaries, or deciding your future, you are the creator of your own goals. I’m here to help you break them down into doable steps.
The Treatment Plan
Your Guide To Change
After you set your goals, we will create a treatment plan together. Life can be unpredictable, so adjusting goals is a normal thing in therapy. At any point during our time together, you have the ability to add or change your goals at any time.
Active Treatment
Exploration & Action
In our ongoing sessions, the work becomes a mix of exploration and action. I am there to:
Provide a safe place for you to lay it all out there.
Support you when the work becomes overwhelming.
Give you the specific tools you need to navigate your unique situation.
Help you stay on the path that will help you achieve your goals.
Hi, I’m April
I know what it’s like to be at a breaking point in a relationship.
It’s hard to see your life any other way, than part of a pair. The panic, and uncertainty of having to go through life without a partner, when for the longest time, part of your identity was wrapped up in this person.
My approach to therapy is grounded in the belief that Nobody plans on these things happening, and there’s nothing to be ashamed of when it does. I’m here to help you process the end, figure out who you are now, and where you want this new road to take you.
We work together to ensure that no matter what, your mental health is better than it was during the end of your relationship.
The Tools We’ll Use
To help you move from surviving the split to being yourself, we will use specific strategies tailored to what you need. Some of these include:
Setting New Boundaries Learning where your responsibilities end and your ex-partner’s begin, so you can stop carrying the weight of their choices or reactions.
Learning to Disengage Learning how to take a step back during high-conflict moments or stressful legal exchanges, allowing you to respond with clarity rather than reacting from a place of hurt.
Identifying Your Values Reconnecting with the things that matter to you most as an individual, helping you make decisions about your future with more certainty and peace.
Communication Scripts Practicing how to express your needs and set firm limits clearly, especially when navigating co-parenting or the logistics of the divorce.
Grounding Techniques Physical techniques to calm your nervous system when the stress of the transition feels overwhelming, so you can stay grounded instead of spinning into panic.
Self-Compassion Tools Ways to quiet the inner critic and the “what-ifs” that tell you that you’ve failed because your life looks different than you planned.
Testimonials
Ready for a Change? Let’s Talk.
I know it can be hard to take the first step. Let’s start with a simple conversation to see if we’re a good fit.
Worried about how your kids are taking this?
Divorce is hard on the whole family. I offer therapy for major life changes for ages 8 and up to help them process the big changes that are happening, and regain their sense of stability.
FAQ
Do you take insurance?
Yes, I am currently in-network with:
- Medica
- United Healthcare/UBH/UMR
- Cigna/Evernorth
- Optum EAP
- Medical Assistance/ Minnesotacare
For those who have out-of-network benefits, I am able to create a superbill for you to submit to your insurance.
Do you offer in-person or virtual appointments?
I offer both! For those who are interested in meeting face-to-face, we meet at my office in Blaine. For those who prefer virtual appointments, we meet through a HIPAA compliant video platform.
What is your private pay session fee?
For individual therapy my private pay fee is $160 per session (ranging 45-50 minutes)
For couples therapy my private pay fee is $175 per session (ranging 45-50 minutes)
Do you offer a free consultation?
Yes, I offer a free 15 minute consultation for those looking for more information or who would just like to meet me before our first session. I offer phone and virtual consultations, depending on your preference.
